After you go through your Maryland divorce, you may begin fielding questions from friends and family members about your dating life. You are probably not even sure where to start dating, or you may not feel emotionally secure enough to share yourself with someone else. Even though you are probably not ready to start dating immediately after breaking it off with your spouse, there are several signs that could indicate the time is right to get “back out there.”
Experts say you should consider dating again only after you have worked through your needs and desires in a relationship, along with potential deal-breaker scenarios that could arise. You are probably looking for some characteristics in your new partner that differ from those of your spouse. You could also be seeking a partner with some of the same attributes; after all, something attracted you to your spouse in the first place. Make a list of absolute needs in a relationship, and have fun examining your concept of an ideal mate.
Next, you need to have neutral feelings about your ex in order to move on into the dating world. You might feel some fondness for the person, but you are not in love with your ex. It is important to get along in child custody situations, for example, but neither person is interested in rekindling the relationship. Similarly, you have let go of the rage and hurt that may have accompanied your divorce.
Finally, you need to be excited about the prospect of meeting someone new. If the idea of dating makes you feel overly uncomfortable or anxious, do not feel obligated to rush the process. There will be a healing period after divorce that will require time. Your qualified divorce attorney and team of professionals can help you work through many of the emotional, financial and social issues that arise because of your breakup. If you are thinking about divorcing, be sure to consult an experienced divorce lawyer to help you make important decisions during this difficult time.
www.huffingtonpost.com, “3 ways to know you’re ready to date after divorce” Honoree Corder, Aug. 06, 2013