In the United States, nearly 50% of all marriages end in divorce. In Maryland, there are about 2.5 divorces per 1,000 citizens each year. A divorce can devastate both partners and entire families, but there are strategies to get through this stressful time with peace of mind and friendship intact.
Amicable vs. contested divorces
Although precise statistics are not kept on whether a divorce was amicable or contested, data concerning the involvements of the courts suggest that amicable divorces are on the rise. That may be because contested divorces are substantially more expensive. Forbes estimates that the average contested divorce costs 40 times more than the average amicable divorce.
Mediation usually leads to a much healthier divorce. Each partner can have his or her own divorce attorney, and there may be a third-party arbitrator who represents neither party. Approaching it this way requires not viewing the divorce as a contest but rather a joint effort to achieve a harmonious result. The power of mediation is that it takes the deciding power from the courts to ensure that it remains with the two people getting divorced.
Getting divorced is one of the most stressful things you can do in life; mental health professionals rank it among loss of a loved one, unemployment and relocation as stress-inducing events. The effect that it can have on you mentally and even physically should not be underestimated. Many professionals recommend support counseling even if you are involved in an amicable divorce in order to maintain a healthy state of mind.
Communication and cooperation
Divorce can inspire a flood of intense emotions. Those feelings can motivate you to take actions that feel good in the short term but are harmful to you in the end. Open communication and the spirit of cooperation are healthier for you and everyone involved. If you have questions about how to ensure that your divorce is as amicable as possible, a family law attorney may help you.