Talking to your children about divorce can be difficult. But it is important to carefully consider how you’re going to have this conversation. The steps you take now can help things go smoothly for them.
So what should you do during this conversation? Here are a few important tips to remember.
Have a family conversation
First of all, everyone should be included. You and your spouse need to be there to present a united front. All of your kids need to be there so that they can learn about the divorce at the same time. You don’t want them to find out from someone else or to think that only you or your spouse are responsible.
Avoid taking sides
Don’t blame anyone else for the divorce. Don’t make your children choose which side they’re going to be on. Discuss the divorce with the children as something that you are all going to work together to get through effectively.
Focus on stability
If possible, try to create as much stability as you can for the children. Try to keep their routines the same during the divorce process, for example. This can give them a sense of security during a difficult time.
Answer their questions
The children may have questions, such as wondering who is going to live with them or if they’re going to have to move. Give the kids a chance to talk and ask these questions, rather than just spending the entire conversation talking to them. Make sure they know that they are being heard.
Having the divorce conversation is one of the earlier steps you should take during this process. Be sure you also know about your legal options as you move forward.